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Giving gifts is a wonderful opportunity to show your love, gratitude, or appreciation for a person. If done in the right way of course. And for that, you need to know the proper gifting rules (AKA the gifting etiquette). We don’t get a course on gift-giving etiquette in school and unlike dinner etiquette, our parents don’t teach us all there is to know about the art of giving.
And that’s exactly why this post with the 23 rules of gift giving came into existence. The aim is to help you navigate through the rules of holiday seasons and other gifting expectations and to help you master the art of giving.
For more tips on how to give better gifts, check out these science-based gifting tips too.
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Keep in mind that the gifting etiquette we’re talking about today relates to the non-business gifting etiquette. Business gifts are something completely different because the intention of the gift and the relationship between the giver and receiver is different.
So please, if you are looking for the etiquette of gifting for work, you came to the wrong place.
#1 gifting etiquette is culturally dependent.
Alright, the first rule of today is also a confusing one. Because basically, it says: that the rules of gift giving vary around the world.
So why on earth did I say everyone needs to know these gifting etiquette rules if it’s different around the world?
Well, because even though some rules are culturally dependent, there are also rules that should be universally known. And one of them is, that you should respect the gifting etiquette of each country.
So before you buy a gift, make sure you’ve done your research about the receiver’s cultural background. In some countries you can’t give anything with the color red, in other countries it’s inappropriate to give a clock. So look up the rules for the receiver’s country to avoid any awkward and inappropriate gifting situations.
Now, this is one of the gifting rules everyone should understand.
It is not about you. It’s not about showing off any of the following
I know, it’s very tempting to find gifts that show the above statements. But if you’ve checked my guide on how to give great gifts , you may remember that all these things do not influence how the receiver evaluates the gift.
Multiple studies have shown that givers’ and receivers’ perspectives on gifts vary immensely, which is why so many gifts are returned or remain unused.
So if you want to really master the art of giving, no matter where you are in the world, put yourself in the recipient’s shoes.
Don’t picture their reaction upon opening it, but instead, try to picture them a year after having received your gift. How often will they use it or look at it? Will they still be happy with it, or has it become a burden or will it still be in the box stored somewhere in a corner? In the case of the latter, you’ve picked the wrong gift.
Do you need some help with identifying bad gifts from great ones? Check out this post in which 15 travel bloggers spill the beans about the worst gifts they ever received and why.
It’s a cliché to say that it’s the thought that counts and if you ask the receivers it’s not even entirely true.
Wait, what?
Studies show that the actual gift is at least equally (and in some cases even more) as important as the thought that was put into it. (Source)
So why did I include this as a gifting rule everyone should know?
Well, two reasons.
First, I want to urge every receiver of gifts (which is basically anyone) to always appreciate the simple fact that someone cared enough for you to get you a gift. So make this cliché your own and check my guide on how to accept gift gracefully to learn more about why you should.
Second, I want to tell every giver that they should not misinterpret this cliché. It doesn’t give you a free pass to give inconsiderate and shitty gifts, just because the receiver should appreciate the fact that you are giving them something.
It is the thought that counts, but the thoughts you should have are “Why am I giving this gift and how can I make this a great gift for the receiver”. Again, think about the receiver, not yourself.
If you’re giving something only because you are expecting something in return, are you actually giving?
I know, it’s a philosophical question. But I think it’s an important one to think about when we’re talking about the rules of gift giving.
Because remember, true giving is not about you but about the receiver.
So don’t expect a return gift, a favor, and not even a thank you or a smile when you are giving a gift.
Because I think this is what makes gifting so awkward and painful at times. The givers expect the receivers to be extremely grateful and happy with their gift and are disappointed when they’re not. The receiver feels this pressure and lies about liking the gift and never using the gift. Or tell the giver honestly they don’t like it, which hurts the giver’s feelings.
And that’s all because givers always expect something in return. So let us all remember this rule; do not expect anything, not even a smile, in return. This is not about you, so don’t take the receiver’s response personally.
Unfortunately, I can’t tell you what that reasonable budget is. This depends on so many variables such as the occasion, your relationship with the receiver, and your financial situation.
But I’m pretty sure you can make an estimation of when you’re splurging.
And here is the general rule, don’t splurge.
It can make receivers feel uncomfortable. Especially in cultures where it’s expected to give something of equal value in return.
Plus, studies also showed that spending more doesn’t mean more appreciation of the gift. (Source)
I think most of us have been brought up with the idea that you never arrive empty-handed. And honestly, I think it’s a great gifting rule that we should all abide by. Now, this does not mean you should always bring physical gifts. I believe you can honor your host in many different ways, and you can always find the one that is best suited for your situation.
For instance, when your host explicitly tells you not to bring gifts, you can still honor them with words by thanking them and expressing what you appreciate about them. Alternatively, you can invite them to your place in return, offer to cook dinner (if you’re staying over or visit more often) or offer to do the groceries, clean up, or anything else.
Trust me, there is always a way to honor your host!
Now, this is a gifting rule that applies to all receivers, and it’s something I have discussed in-depth in my guide on receiving gifts gracefully . So for now, I will keep it short and simple.
ALWAYS, and I mean ALWAYS, thank someone for their gift, and for the time, effort, and thought they put into getting the gift. Even if you don’t like the gift. Even if you intend to refuse the gift. (Yes, you absolutely can refuse gifts, we will talk more about this later.) But even then, you show appreciation for the effort and thought.
Alright, now this is a very short and simple rule that some of you may not like. But it’s really simple. Giving is not about you. And if the receiver has made a registry list and written down exactly what they want, you should stick to it!
I know it might be tempting to buy something unique because you think you’ve got the perfect idea. But trust me, the recipient knows themselves better than you do. So just stick with the registry (if there is something on there you can afford, of course).
Now, I think the only exception here is if you are close to the recipient and you are 100% sure that they will like your gift more; you can go for something else. But if you’re only 99% sure, just go with the registry gift.
Alright, so this is not about corporate giving because that is something completely different that comes with its own set of rules. What I am referring to here is gift-giving rules for co-workers and bosses.
Now, be sure to check the company policies before you give your boss anything because it may be against the rules.
And when giving gifts to your co-workers, be mindful. Don’t give anything embarrassing or something they don’t want to share in the workplace. And if you don’t give gifts to all your co-workers, but just a few, do it in private outside office hours. That way you won’t make other co-workers feel excluded or feel bad about not buying a present.
If you received gifts through the mail, or for a party where you did not open them immediately and did not thank the giver right away, you should always send thank you notes within a week. But even if a week has already passed, it’s better to be late than never.
Now, in the current digital age, you no longer have to write each note by hand. For many, a simple text message will do.
Not sure what to write in such a note? Check out our list of funny thank you notes for inspiration!
#11 it’s okay to not give something unique.
We all want to give amazing gifts and many of us think that we can only achieve this by giving something unique. Don’t worry if you are one of those many (so am I). It’s just that research has shown that receivers often prefer generic and more useful gifts over super unique ones. (Source)
So this is one of the gifting rules we should all remember if we want to step up our giving game; it’s okay to not be unique.
I know it’s still taboo to ask a receiver what they would like to have. It takes away the surprise and it makes it seem as if you don’t want to put in any thought and effort to pick a gift yourself.
But receivers actually don’t care about that, they prefer solicited gifts over thoughtful ones. (Source)
And you know what? The fact that you asked, actually shows that you put in a lot of thought and the right kind of thought. The thought of “How can I give person X the best gift?”.
I know I said gifting etiquette is culturally dependent and you should respect them. But if you live in a country where asking what the receiver wants is inappropriate, it may be time to break with traditions and finally give great gifts. However, I would advise you to only do this with receivers you know very well, so you’re not risking your relationship with this question.
If you really can’t ask them what they want, check out the guide to giving better gifts for tips on how you can discover what they want without asking.
Here is another taboo I want you to break. Gift cards and money don’t necessarily mean that you haven’t put any thought into this gift. Again, just as with asking the receiver, it shows that you put in the right kind of thought: “How can I really make person X happy?”
Plus, this is another example where givers’ and receivers’ perspectives vary.
From the giver’s perspective, it seems like a generic and unthoughtful gift, but from the receiver’s perspective, it’s a great gift. Did you know that in 2021 more than half of the respondents actually wished for a gift card over the holidays? (Source)
And there are plenty of ways in which you can still create that “wow” factor when gifting money or gift cards. For example by adding personal notes , making money origami, or using a puzzle box to open the gift.
Check out these 29 unique gift card-wrapping ideas for more options.
You know, sometimes you just receive a gift that’s not your style or you might already have it. And some people don’t want to hurt the giver’s feelings and won’t say anything. (One could argue whether this is the right approach or not, but that’s a discussion for another day).
The point is, now you’re stuck with an unwanted gift.
So let’s be practical. Instead of letting this gift collect dust in your garage, why not give it to someone who will actually use this?
There are a few things I would advise you to keep into account when re-gifting a gift.
Here is another gifting etiquette rule that I think we should break. Giving the receipt or asking for the receipt should be acceptable.
If you are not sure whether the recipient will love the gift, and you stayed within an acceptable range of budget, it is totally fine to add the receipt to the gift. Or offer the recipient the option to change it.
It’s not an insult to you and you should never take it personally (remember, gifting is not about you). It’s just practical. They might need a different size, prefer a different color, or they may already have something similar. And if followed gifting rule #5 and you didn’t splurge, there is nothing crazy to be seen on the receipt.
Now, I know I said earlier to be appreciative, but that doesn’t mean you can never say no. If for whatever reason it does not feel right to accept a gift, you always (and I mean ALWAYS) have the freedom to decline politely.
Whether it’s because it’s an expensive gift, a romantic gesture you can’t reciprocate, or a bribe, if it doesn’t feel right, simply thank them for their thought, but decline the gift.
I know that refusing gifts is quite a difficult thing to do, and it’s highly personal and cultural, so I wrote a full guide on refusing gifts to help you navigate this debate and give you tools on how to handle each situation.
This is a gifting rule that comes with a few nuances, but in general terms, I want you to understand that it is perfectly fine if you buy someone a gift that is not as expensive as the one they bought for you. Gifts don’t necessarily need to be of equal value.
First of all, value can be measured in many different ways. So who says that if your gift was cheaper, it’s not as valuable? Second, we are all in different phases of life, and if the giver or recipient is someone you know, they will understand that and will love you for who you are, not for the amount of money you have.
So my point of view is that it should not matter too much. However, if you do feel uncomfortable because of your friends or relatives’ expensive gifts, you can always talk to them about it. I’m pretty sure they will tell you that for them it is just a way of showing that they love you and that they do not expect anything in return, but simply have a chat and figure it out together.
I talked about this in my guide on how to accept gifts with style . But rule number one when it comes to not having a return gift is to not make a big deal out of it. The more you focus on it by apologizing or lying that you have something for them, the more awkward it gets.
Simply thank them for their kind gesture, and perhaps remember to do something nice for them later as a return of favor in a different way. Gift giving is not an eye for an eye. It’s about sharing love, and love can be shared in a million different ways.
#19 don’t make gifting awkward for the receiver.
Unless you know each other really well and your relationship is based on pranking each other, you should try to avoid embarrassing the receiver.
So don’t give a whole speech to someone who hates being in the middle of attention. Don’t say it was a really expensive gift. Don’t gift something awkward in front of other people. It might be funny for you, but remember, this is about the receiver, not you.
Basically, try to make giving as comfortable for the receiver as possible.
For proper gift-giving etiquette, there are two things you want to avoid when there are other people around the receiver.
First, you don’t want to make people feel left out because you brought a gift for one person and not for them. And second, you don’t want to make people feel bad about themselves because they didn’t bring a gift for the recipient.
So if there are other people around the receiver, wait until you have a private moment together to give your gift.
Put yourself in the receiver’s shoes and ask yourself this question: “ Will they enjoy using this gift or will it be a burden? “.
For example, don’t gift your grandmother who doesn’t understand technology a high-tech alarm clock. Instead, give her a simple one she can use right away. And don’t gift a coffee machine that only uses expensive cups (unless you know they want it). You are literally forcing the receiver to buy these expensive cups just to use your gift.
Yes, everybody loves a cute puppy.
But that doesn’t mean everybody should have a puppy.
Never, ever give pets to someone unless they’ve specifically requested one.
Animals are living things that require love and care. They are basically like kids and probably one of the highest-burden gifts out there.
So please, if there is one gifting rule you are willing to take from today, let it be this one and treat animals with the love they deserve.
I guess this is one of the most obvious gift-giving etiquettes on this list, but I still felt like I had to include it.
Don’t gift something that insinuates that the receiver is not good enough right now.
So don’t give exercise equipment, self-help books, plastic surgery (honestly, I didn’t even know people did this), or personal development training.
Of course, there is an exception here. And that is, it’s okay to give any of these things if and only if the receiver specifically requests it. Though you could add a personal note saying you gave them this because they asked for it, in your opinion, they are perfect the way they are.
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Alright, these were the 15 gift giving rules that I think everyone should know. I hope we can break some useless gifting etiquettes and taboos here and all learn the true art of giving
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You just purchased a gift for your loved one and can’t wait to see her delighted face while giving the gift.
Will you just handover the gift to the person or want to make the gift-giving moment memorable?
What if you can’t decide what to say when giving a gift?
Though we have no written rules for gift-giving, each culture has its own customs.
So, following some etiquettes, you can give a gift as well as a great memory to the person you care about.
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Giving gifts to your favorite person is not difficult, but it turns into great pleasure when you pre-plan everything. Moreover, you have to consider a few things before buying a fabulous present.
Giving some novels to a three-year-old baby is not wise at all. Age is an essential factor while choosing gifts. Carefully choose a suitable present for your loved ones.
Chocolates or flowers are such gifts that it doesn’t matter to whom you are giving these. Choose gifts according to the gender as well as what they like most. You can present a lovely dress or jewelry for the female whereas watch or wallet for the male.
Every culture maintains certain traditions to express feelings or give a gift to someone on occasion. Try to know about the norms of the culture before presenting a nicely wrapped box to them.
The relation with the person is also important while surprising someone on his/her birthday or any other occasion. You can’t give the same gifts to your friends and parents.
In case of formal situations, you should be conservative while presenting a gift. On the other hand, you can casually present something to your friends or family members.
Selecting gifts according to your budget is another essential thing. If you want to cope with a low budget, you have to be trickier while choosing gifts. In that case, you have to buy small gifts for all instead of some costly gifts for two or three persons.
Probably you are willing to give a presentation on an occasion or a particular day. So, you must know the suitable and relatable gift which may represent your effort for them. If it’s her birthday, you can give her flowers, chocolates or anything she loves most.
So, you have to be aware of the occasion and the impact of giving the gift on that event to make it memorable.
How do you feel when your birthday is over, and your friend gives you a nice present? Well, it doesn’t matter how unique the gift is; you may not receive it anyways. That’s why proper timing is essential.
Wish your beloved ones before the occasion or the special day. Your thoughtfulness and responsibility depend much on it.
Gifts are always unique, but they can be more remarkable when you give them in some extraordinary ways.
Handmade gifts are always exceptional as these require efforts to make. It can be a box with pictures and memories, notebooks with some poems, or some letters remembering some great memories and wishes.
Selecting a suitable place to present a gift is also essential. You can arrange a candlelight dinner near a beach, or anywhere they like and thus give your favorite ones great surprises.
Initiate your speech with the origin or history behind the gift you are giving. It attracts people as well as makes the gifts memorable.
Creative things are always appreciated. So, leave the traditional things, and try to make something creative with your own effort.
Lastly, a gift becomes most impressive when it is a surprise. So, try to keep it a secret, and act like you are not going to give any presents. Thus, you can really amuse someone by giving them a present.
Giving a gift is not a big deal.
Yeah! But you can make that moment never to be forgotten by presenting the gift in a unique way. Of course, you have to know if it’s formal or informal and have to act like that.
Plus, you can make your way of giving gifts much better if you choose your words like this.
Following some social norms at the time of giving presents to people is a must. Don’t forget these etiquettes though they vary depending on countries and cultures.
Try to practice some good manners and traditions of the culture you have.
In the case of gifts, it’s not necessary to know or show the price. Prices never determine the value of a gift. Gifts are expressions of love and affection for someone you genuinely care about.
Your gift may be cheap or costly, but it means a lot to you. So, never give the gift with the price tag. Permanently remove the tag while giving a present.
We all love to get surprises, aren’t we? And so, when you hand over the present without wrapping, it’s no more a surprise. So, cover it with a colorful paper or packet, and adorn it with some ribbons or something else.
It would be great fun when you wrap a gift and ask them to guess it!
Presenting a good speech while giving someone a gift is not easy for all. In that case, handmade cards help a lot! You can write whatever you feel on the card even if you feel shy to express them while giving gifts.
If you can’t make cards, you can buy a nice one and write what you want to convey.
Think and act positively when you want to make something surprising for your beloved ones. Approach confidently and present your gift with a heart-touching speech or something memorable.
Don’t say things like “you may not like it,” “I could not afford much,” such things.
Suppose yesterday was your birthday but your friend didn’t even wish you, whereas you gave a great surprise on his birthday. Sounds horrible?
Though no law says that you have to give a return gift to someone who gave you something, but it’s up to you if you want to give them a surprise on special days or occasions.
Exchanging gifts is not a must as people don’t always expect return gifts. But it makes them happy to get return gifts and improves the relation between gift-givers and takers.
If you have a tight budget, purchase small gifts, and make them understand your situation, and try to give good things the next time.
Finally, try to make an effort for those who once did it for you.
Whatever the gift is, appreciate the giver for the gift with a smiling face. You may not like it, but don’t express it to them. Don’t forget to thank them. Even if you don’t give any return gift, write a hand note with thankfulness if possible.
And if the gift comes from a distant place, call him/her whenever you receive the gift.
Researchers found some interesting psychological facts about gift-giving.
Giving as well as receiving gifts define ourselves as individuals. So, try to exchange traditional gifts which says a lot about the cultures. And I hope that you have no more confusion about what to say when giving a gift.
Gifts are not mandatory to give or receive. But we rebuild our relations and nourish them through gift-giving. We make our loved ones feel special and remember that we truly care for them.
So, gifts are always special, and all of us certainly cherish a nicely wrapped token on the special moments.
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Speeches > Arthur C. Brooks > Why Giving Matters
Arthur c. brooks.
President of the American Enterprise Institute
February 24, 2009
It’s an honor for me to be here at Brigham Young University, and it’s a delight for me to be here in beautiful Provo. The last time I was here was in the fall of 2007. I have happy memories of my last visit, and I have great anticipation of my next. I’m always delighted to be here, and I can see why statistics show that Utahns are some of the happiest people in the United States. It’s quite clear, just by looking around, why that would be so.
I’m going to talk to you today about something that you’ve probably given a lot of thought to: charity. But I want to talk about it in a way you maybe haven’t thought about it: about how you can use it in your lives and in the lives of others. I want to talk to you about how charity can and should prominently figure in the lives of Christian people—but in a way that maybe hasn’t quite occurred to you before. I want to start with a quote from the famous industrialist John D. Rockefeller from 1905.
Rockefeller was famously quoted in that year as saying, “God gave me my money” (in Reo Bennett, “How the Richest Man in the World Observes Christmas,” Woman’s Home Companion, December 1905, 14). Now, that’s sort of troubling to Christian people. God gave him his money? Some have used the quote as evidence that John D. Rockefeller was a bad man—that he believed he deserved to be rich when other people were poor. But that’s not actually what he meant.
In 1906 Rockefeller went on to tell a newspaper reporter for the New York American: “I believe the power to make money is a gift from God . . . to be developed and used to the best of our ability for the good of mankind” (to William Hoster, quoted in Jules Abels, The Rockefeller Billions: The Story of the World’s Most Stupendous Fortune [New York: Macmillan, 1965], 279–80).
What Rockefeller meant was this: He believed that he made money because he was charged with helping others with his money, and he honestly believed (as he wrote at other times) that if he stopped giving his money and giving it in the right way, then God would take his money away.
Now, that still might trouble you theologically that God would intervene in the direct finances of John D. Rockefeller, but you have to admit that it doesn’t sound so weird at that point. John D. Rockefeller believed that he was rich because he gave so much, and throughout his life, before he was a rich man, he gave a lot. He was a charitable person.
A lot of entrepreneurs believe that one of the reasons that they’re rich is because they give. Entrepreneurs in this country are some of its most charitable citizens. And I’ve always heard this, because for years I taught in a department of entrepreneurship, so I got to know the modern John D. Rockefellers who thought that they were rich partly because they gave. But, you know, I never believed it—never believed a word of it—because I was trained as an economist.
A lot of you have taken classes in economics. When you walk into your first class in economics, here’s what the professor doesn’t say: “You want to get rich? Give all your money away.” That’s not the advice you hear. It doesn’t make sense. No, you have to have money first, and then you can give it away. That’s what economists like me think. So I set out to test John D. Rockefeller’s view that he was rich because he—and all the other entrepreneurs I talked to—gave. That way, the next time I heard somebody say that you could get rich by giving your money away, I was going to respond, “No, you’re wrong. I have the data that say you have to have it before you can give it away.”
Well, I’m going to tell you what I found, and in a nutshell what I found was that Rockefeller was right and I was wrong. I’m going to show you the evidence that proves how wrong I was and tell you how you can use this information in your life and how I’m using it in mine.
But first a little background on charitable giving in America: Americans give. Americans give a lot. In 2006 American citizens privately gave about $300 billion away to charity. Now, $300 billion—is that a lot, or is that a little? Who even knows these days? The president with the stroke of a pen could give away three times that to people who cannot pay their mortgages, for all we know. It’s a crazy time out there, but to put it into perspective, $300 billion is more than the entire national income of Sweden. We give away to charity more than the whole country of Swedes makes in income. That’s a lot of money. Seventy-five percent of America’s families give every year. Fifty percent volunteer their time, and many Americans give in myriad other ways that are not captured in data.
At one point when I was teaching about this subject, I decided to figure out who in America is the most charitable. I compared states, and you are not going to be very surprised at what I found. The most charitable state in the United States, of course, is Utah, where people give approximately twice as much as the second leading state in charitable giving. So congratulations to you. I’m tempted to say that that should make Utahns proud. But I suppose that’s not the right word. You should be pleased—and determined to keep it up.
Now, given this, one often asks, How do Americans compare in charitable giving with people around the world? There’s a perception out there, if you listen to politicians, that we’re stingy. Jimmy Carter, the former president of the United States, said in a relatively recent speech that Americans are indifferent to the suffering of the poor around the world: “The problem lies among the people of the U.S. It’s a different world from ours. And we don’t really care about what happens to them” (16th Annual Nobel Peace Prize Forum, 21 February 2004, St. Olaf College, Northfield, Minnesota).
The data say that President Carter is wrong. If we look at how much money Americans give per capita compared to citizens in other countries of the world, we will find that the average American citizen gives away three-and-a-half times as much money each year as the average French citizen, seven times as much as the average German, and 14 times as much as the average Italian.
Now, as an economist I want to know whether or not that’s because we are richer. However, when you correct for income differences and tax differences and all the things that make the United States a different country, you find that the gap doesn’t close. This is an authentic difference in culture—once again something I do believe we can be quite pleased with. The questions, then, are why does it matter and which is pushing and which is pulling? Is the fact that we’re, generally speaking, a richer country the reason that we give so much, as I’d always thought? Or is what John D. Rockefeller would have said true: that the fact that we give so much is one of the secrets to our success?
That’s what I set out to show. I set out to show that Rockefeller was wrong: that you have to have the money before you give it away, that we all need to go to work, and that we need tax policy that puts plenty of money in our pockets—then we’ll help each other. That’s what I intended to show.
The way I set out to show that was by gathering data on 30,000 American families from all over the country. Actually, colleagues at Harvard University collected the data in the year 2000. Working from coast to coast, they collected the data from 41 communities big and small and towns north and south. Salt Lake City was one of the communities we looked at. We also looked at Washington, D.C., and Seattle, Washington (my hometown)—lots of places were in there. Thirty thousand families were asked questions about how much they gave, what they gave to, how much money they made, their education, their family life, and everything in between. It was the most comprehensive look at people’s service behavior and their charitable giving that we’ve ever had before, and I eagerly anticipated these data because I was going to show what I’d always thought. This was going to give me a statistical way to show that you have to have the money first.
So I charted it up and did the statistical analysis. I worked for months with my computer in my darkened office to get my conclusion. The conclusion was, sure enough, that when people get richer, they tend to give more money away. But I also came up with the following counterintuitive finding: When people give more money away, they tend to prosper.
Specifically, here’s what I found. If you have two families that are exactly identical—in other words, same religion, same race, same number of kids, same town, same level of education, and everything’s the same—except that one family gives a hundred dollars more to charity than the second family, then the giving family will earn on average $375 more in income than the nongiving family—and that’s statistically attributable to the gift.
Now, when I got this I was perplexed. I was really confused because it didn’t go with my theory. In psychology this is what we call cognitive dissonance—two competing ideas in conflict with each other. On the one hand I had the theory that I’d always worked under. On the other hand I had data that completely contradicted the theory. So I did what college professors always do in this case: I got rid of the data. I said, “That can’t be right. I’ve obviously messed something up.” I got new software. I looked for new data. I recrunched the numbers. I kept coming up with the same thing.
I ran the numbers again, and I looked at volunteering. I found the same thing: People who volunteer do better financially. I ran the numbers on blood contributions and blood donations. Think about that—giving blood. You’re not going to get richer if you give blood, are you? Well, yes, you are.
I figured it couldn’t be right, so I ignored the findings. I didn’t publish them. I let them roll around in my head for a long time. And I thought, you know, I’ve got a better way to test this—I’m going to look at the whole United States. I wanted to see how charitable giving had changed over a 50-year period and compare it to how income had changed. Then I could see which was statistically pushing and which was pulling.
I examined the average family between 1954 and 2004 and found (adjusted for inflation) a 150-percent increase in real purchasing power. This is great news. This is actually an amazing thing worldwide. You simply don’t see growth like this in real purchasing power in already rich countries. It’s an incredible achievement that the United States has undertaken. This is a testament to prosperity that comes from productivity and hard work and dedication. This is a good thing.
Charitable giving also increased over the same period per family on average by 190 percent. And this is an even better story because what this says is that we’re getting more prosperous in this country, but we’re getting even more generous over time. I’m pleased with this result. It tells me once again that what Jimmy Carter said about this country is not right. We’re not a stingy country. Could we be more generous? Of course we could. But we’re not getting stingier.
Here’s the real question: Which is pushing and which is pulling? Is income driving up donations or are donations driving up income or what? And the answer, once again, is both. You find that when our country gets richer, people do give more away. And as we give more away, that translates into better economic growth for this country.
Statistically what we find is that if we were to increase our private charitable donations by just 1 percent, which is about $2 billion a year—$2 billion a year from people like you and me writing checks for our favorite causes: our churches and our favorite charities—if we just did that, that would translate into a gross domestic product of about 39 billion new dollars. That’s a great multiplier.
Now, $39 billion by today’s stakes is nothing. The president pulls $39 billion from behind the cushions of the couch at the White House. It’s laundry money. It’s three months in Iraq. It’s 5 percent of the stimulus package. It’s nothing. But it’s a great multiplier. If I can take your $2 billion in charity and turn it into $39 billion, then suddenly charitable giving is not just a great investment for you. It’s also a patriotic act for our country because it translates into jobs and growth and opportunity and tax revenues and all the stuff that we really like.
The more I ran the numbers, the more I kept getting this crazy result. I kept getting the same thing over and over and over. Rockefeller was right, but I still refused to believe it. So in desperation I finally went to a colleague who specialized in the psychology of charitable giving, and I said, “I’m getting this result I can’t understand. It doesn’t make sense. It’s like the hand of God or something on the economy, and I can’t believe it’s true.”
And the first thing he asked was, “Why don’t you believe it’s true? You’re a Christian, aren’t you?”
This shook me a bit, but just for a second. “Yeah, but I’m a social scientist,” I shot back. “We’re not supposed to believe those things. I need a more earthbound explanation.”
“Well, I’ll give you one,” he said. “We’ve known this for 30 years in the psychology profession.”
And I said, “Well, tell me, tell me.”
He said, “We haven’t just been talking about money. You economists—you worry about money all the time, and money is boring. We worry about something that people really care about—the currency by which we really spend our days—and that’s happiness. We’ve known for 30 years that people who give get happier as a result. Can you use that?”
And I said, “Oh, yeah.” Because I know from teaching at a business school that the best way to run a successful business is to hire happy people. That’s really where the action is. Some of you know that too. If you want to have a productive business and if you want to be a productive person, work on your happiness. Happy people show up for work more, they work longer hours, they work more joyfully, and they’re happier with every aspect of their productive lives. Happiness is the secret to success, and if that’s true, I’ve got the answer. Charity brings happiness, happiness brings success, and now I’m onto something.
It turns out that the data on happiness and charitable giving are beyond dispute. People who give to charity are 43 percent more likely than people who don’t give to say they’re very happy people. People who give blood are twice as likely to say they’re very happy people as people who don’t give blood. People who volunteer are happier. The list goes on. You simply can’t find any kind of service that won’t make you happier.
Laboratory experiments using human subjects find that when people are asked to give to other people, it elevates their mood. Furthermore, if you increase your level of charitable giving, you can permanently alter your level of what psychologists call positive effect—which is to say, being in a good mood. You can be a happier person that way. It’s the secret, basically. The real question is not whether that’s true; the question is why that’s true.
There’s a very interesting set of studies that tell us why it is that giving will make you into a happy person. The first has to do with how it changes your brain. I’m going to explain that in a minute. The second is what it does to how other people treat you. Let me explain. The first is that the wiring of our brains is conducive to charitable giving, and it works something like this. In the late 1980s there was a famous study of charitable giving that looked at how people reacted with respect to the endorphins that they experienced. Endorphins are neurochemicals that make you feel a sort of euphoria. If you like to run marathons, it’s probably because afterward you feel really good—you feel sort of high in a way. Psychologists came forth with studies that showed that when people volunteer to help other people, they get what they call “the helper’s high.” Volunteering actually gives people a mild sense of euphoria.
I think that’s an interesting study, but it doesn’t help me explain prosperity. The helper’s high doesn’t get me there, and the reason is this. When I was in high school I went to school with a lot of kids who specialized in getting high. And it turns out that that was not a secret to success. Now that I’m 44 years old and keeping in touch with a couple of people from high school, I can assure you that the pathway they took was not the one to great prosperity. So it’s interesting that you get this helper’s high, but it doesn’t help us explain all this worldly prosperity that I keep finding in my data.
Later studies of the brain came up with a more compelling explanation. These studies showed that when people give, it lowers their levels of stress. This is really important to understand in prosperity because one thing that we know is that people who do their jobs with less stress tend to be more productive and more successful than those who perform it with more stress. You’ll find throughout your lives that if you can find ways to relax, you will profit from this level of relaxation. Studies have shown that charitable giving will objectively lower the stress levels that people feel in their everyday lives.
There is one famous study from the Duke Medical School in 1996. It’s a study that I love because it’s so strange. Senior citizens were asked in an experiment to give massages to infants, to little babies—which is a funny thing. It just goes to show you that in the university community you can get tenure for doing anything. Of these senior citizens, half of them gave massages to infants and the other half didn’t. The researchers monitored the stress hormones in the senior citizens’ brains to see what happened.
There are three stress hormones, for your information. (This is the kind of thing that, when you’re like me and write books for a living, you find out about.) What are the three stress hormones? They’re called cortisol, epinephrine, and norepinephrine. When somebody cuts you off in traffic or insults you or you get a D on an exam or something like that, those chemicals are lighting up your brain like a Christmas tree, and you’re unhappy as a result because you’re stressed out. What you want to do is go through life with less cortisol, epinephrine, and norepinephrine in your day-to-day life. And what they found in the study of the senior citizens was that those who gave the massages to the babies cut their stress hormones in half. Big finding! Their interpretation was that this is great advice for people who want to be more effective, and this tells us something about why people who give a lot as part of their regular lifestyles are going to be more successful.
The second set of studies has to do not with what happens in your brain when you give but with what happens in other people’s brains when you give. A study from the University of Kent in southern England was dedicated to figuring out how people see others who are givers. There is an experiment called a cooperation game in which people are gathered in a large room, given a little bit of money, and asked to contribute to a common fund. Then the researchers look in the common fund, double it, and pass it out equally among the participants. If you think about that game, the best thing for everybody to do is to put in all of their money and have it doubled. But if you’re crafty, what you want to do is hold back all your money when everybody else puts in theirs and don’t cooperate. That way you get your own money and a chunk of everybody else’s. That’s the idea. And, as the experiment showed, there is always a proportion of people who opt to do so.
Now, researchers have been studying this kind of thing for years. What made it interesting when the University of Kent studied it was this. There was a second phase in which people in the game who had witnessed each other cooperating in giving to each other were asked to break up into teams and elect leaders. What they found was that in 82 percent of the cases, the leaders who were elected were the biggest givers from the first phase.
Their conclusion, a conclusion that has been verified in subsequent experiments, is that when people see strangers giving charitably, they recognize a leadership quality in those strangers. If people witness you as a giver, they will see a leader. Servant leadership is no joke, and it’s a secret to success, whether you’re looking for success or not. When people see you giving and cooperating and serving others, they will see in you a leader, or a future leader, and they cannot help but help you.
There are many other studies that show that givers have better health and that givers are better citizens. It goes on and on. The bottom line is this: Givers are healthier, happier, and richer in this country—and probably around the world. It gives us stronger communities; indeed, it gives us a more prosperous nation.
The question for me now is this: Who gives the most? And who’s getting all this benefit—wonderful benefit—for themselves and for their communities? Well, I told you before: people from Utah. But that doesn’t get me far enough, because if you move across the border from Idaho you are not suddenly going to start coughing up to charity. You’re just not going to do it.
There is something else going on, and you know what it is. It’s practicing faith. The number-one characteristic of those who give in this country is that they practice a faith. Of people who practice their faith regularly—which is to say, they attend worship services every week—91 percent give to charity each year. Of people who don’t attend every week, 66 percent do. This translates into millions and millions of people who are healthier, happier, and more prosperous than their neighbors, and it charts back to a lot of their religious experiences.
There are two ways to explain this link between God and giving. Explanation number one: You’re better people. That’s not a very Christian explanation. Explanation number two: You’ve been given a special gift—the gift of giving. Now I’m going to ask you to take a pretty sophisticated understanding here of charitable giving. As Christian people we are taught that giving is important to help others. I’m telling you that the data say giving helps you, so if you want to help others, don’t just give to them—think about what you can do today to help somebody else to give. The main beneficiary of a charitable gift is the giver him- or herself.
Let me summarize that. What do the data tell me as a Christian man? They tell me that I am the big beneficiary of my own giving, that people similar to me who take their faith seriously are the beneficiaries because we tend to give a lot. We’ve been taught to do what is right, and we are reaping the reward. So how can we, given this fact, reinterpret the scriptures about charitable giving? How can we take it to the next level?
Consider Mosiah 4:21 :
And now, if God, who has created you, on whom you are dependent for your lives and for all that ye have and are, doth grant unto you whatsoever ye ask that is right, in faith, believing that ye shall receive, O then, how ye ought to impart of the substance that ye have one to another.
The traditional interpretation of this passage, which is similar to passages in any sacred text, is basically this: “Give more to other people. You have so much; give more.” Take it to the next level. Take it to the source of the prosperity. You have been given the gift of giving. Help others by giving them the gift of giving.
How are you going to do that? How are you going to help somebody to give more today? There are a lot of ways to do it. Let me tell you how you’ve done it for me.
Let me tell you a quick story about a briefcase. I know it’s a weird subject for a story, but it’s actually a magic briefcase. It’s my magic Brigham Young University briefcase. I visited here in the fall of 2007 for the first time—I’d never been here before. My friend Gary Cornia, who is the dean of the business school, gave me a beautiful briefcase that said “Brigham Young University” on it. I took it home and put it away because I already had a briefcase, and I didn’t think about it.
About a month later my briefcase broke, and I was complaining to my wife, and I said, “The handle’s broken. It’s very inconvenient.”
And she said, “What about that BYU briefcase you brought home? Why don’t you carry that?”
And I said, “Oh. Okay. That’s a good idea.”
So I took all my stuff and put it in the BYU briefcase, and I started carrying it around.
At the time, my research assistant at Syracuse University, Nick Bailey (he’s here—he actually works at BYU now), noticed, and he said, “You’re carrying a BYU briefcase.”
I said, “Yeah, it’s great. It’s an Italian briefcase. It’s very nice.”
I travel a lot, and one of the funny things I noticed is that when you are out in public carrying a briefcase that says something on it, the first thing people you don’t know do is read the briefcase and then look at you. It occurred to me that people were thinking, “He’s a Mormon guy.” And that’s actually sort of false religious advertising because I’m a Roman Catholic. I take my faith seriously, but no matter how seriously I take my faith, technically that still doesn’t make me a Mormon.
So I was walking around saying, basically, “I’m a Mormon,” and the funny thing is that it was changing my personality. And the reason it was changing my personality was because I was mortified by the idea that somebody would say, “You know, I was in the airport, and I saw this Mormon guy, and he was being a real jerk.” I wanted to live up to someone else’s reputation, and it was making me into a better person. It was a magic briefcase.
So what’s the implication of this story? Well, obviously it might just be that I’m trying to get a new briefcase right now. (Maybe the greatest kind of evangelization that the LDS Church could undertake would be to buy 300 million briefcases and give them out to all Americans.) But the bigger point here is that carrying the briefcase was actually making my life better. I was happier; things were going really well for me as I was carrying that briefcase. And the reason is that the service for which Mormons have become justifiably famous was infecting my life. It was making me better as a person. It was helping me. And I thank you for that.
So how else (besides accidentally buying somebody a briefcase) can you help other people give more today? First, you can help to dispel some myths about charitable giving.
Myth number one: Giving makes us poorer. You hear this all the time. This is what the economist like me thinks. It’s wrong; you have to fight thinking that way. And there are arguments that say the way it works is not just the hand of God—at least not directly the hand of God. Instead, maybe it’s the hand of God through our neurochemistry, having to do with the structure of our brains. But there are good explanations for why this is not true.
Myth number two: People are naturally selfish. I hear this constantly: “They are not going to give. People are just selfish.” People are selfish, it’s true, but they’re not naturally selfish; people are unnaturally selfish. When we are our best selves, when we are in equilibrium, when we are where we’re supposed to be cognitively, neurochemically, and spiritually, then we are giving people.
Myth number three: Giving is a luxury. It’s not. It’s a necessity—the first 10 percent, not the last 10 percent. And the reason is that if we want to be better, we have to give.
Myth number four: This is not a public policy lecture, but I’m a public policy professional, so I’m going to make one public policy point here today. You will hear in the coming days and weeks and months that if our country were doing what it should be doing for people in need, then we wouldn’t need private giving, that the government would be taking care of people who need it, and that we would not need you to step in to provide needs. Having looked at the data, I am here to tell you today that the day the government takes over for you in your private charity is the day we get poorer, unhappier, and unhealthier. The process starts right now on the day the government crowds us out. We must demand to take our place as givers and to support our communities of need and people who need the services that we can provide.
Second, how else can we help others give more? Well, by teaching. We’re teachers. I’m a teacher. You’re a teacher. We’re leaders in our communities. Everything we do demonstrates what we believe. People mimic those who are successful, happy, and well adjusted. You’ve heard many times throughout your training in church and in school that you’re never really alone. Somebody is always watching you. You’re always creating an example, and, as such, you’re a teacher. What you do today people will see. Make sure that it’s clear that you’re a charitable giver—and they will emulate you.
And third, how can we bring our creativity to bear more in our families, in our churches? How can we create a curriculum where giving is a core competency? We’re very good at teaching reading and writing—well, we’re not that good at that either, but in theory we’re pretty good at teaching reading and writing. We’re not very good at taking teaching giving seriously, yet this is a core competency for successful citizenship and a happy life. We need to be better about teaching this.
What I charge you with today is what I charge myself with, which is to discover more creative solutions to working these concepts into our everyday lives. You can tell this has changed my life a lot. I hope you can tell that it really has. When I was working on this research four years ago, I came home with a chapter from a book that showed these data analyses, and my wife read it. She reads everything I write. She tells me pretty honestly when it’s not so good. She read the chapter and said, “I think this is really something. I think we can use this.”
“Yeah, we should give more,” I answered. “We should write bigger checks. We should take this seriously.”
She said, “No, no, no. I think we should do something bigger. I think we should adopt a baby.”
And I said, “Sweetheart, it’s only a book.
But I had no argument. We had to do it. And we did it. It was the best thing we ever did. And that changed our lives even more.
As for your money being cheerfully refunded, I can’t guarantee that, but I promise you that this stuff really works. It works—if you want—because of God in heaven, or it works—if you want—because of your neurochemistry, but it really works, and I leave you with that and one more thought.
As an American citizen and as a person with great delight to be here at BYU and living in this great country, one of the things that I’ve learned as a result of my research is that I’m a happy prosperous person because I live in a country with people who serve. Because you give to your churches and the causes that you care about here in Utah, I have a richer, happier, and healthier life even though I live in Washington, D.C. So for all that you do between your student life and your giving and your missions and everything else that characterizes your life of service that helps me so much, my last words to you are thank you.
© Arthur C. Brooks.
Arthur C. Brooks was president of the American Enterprise Institute when this BYU forum address was given on 24 February 2009.
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Appreciation speech generator.
In most events, there is always a speaker who delivers a message to the audience for a particular purpose. Such purpose may differ depending on the event the speech is delivered to. For example, a valedictorian speech is delivered during a graduation ceremony by the class valedictorian who basically talks about the experiences and learning he/she or the class has undergone in school.
The word speech can be used to mean either the ability to express ideas through speaking, or the act of delivering a message during an event, as mentioned above. In this article, speech is used to mean the latter.
An appreciation speech, also known as thank you speech, is a speech which is usually prepared and given in order to express the gratitude of the speaker (usually on behalf of a group of people) to a certain individual or organization. In giving an appreciation speech outline , the speaker include the reason for giving thanks to the person or persons being thanked.
Although the reasons may differ depending on the occasion or the deed you are thankful of, the main point of an appreciation speech is to inform your audience that you appreciate such effort.
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An appreciation speech is primarily given to acknowledge the kind deed of an individual or a group of individuals in front of an audience. Basically, you are not just simply thanking them, but also letting everyone know how you appreciate the deed.
An appreciation speech in pdf , can be given even just for the simplest reasons.
For example, you might thank everyone (your audience) for coming to the event you are hosting. Aside from expressing thank you speech , an appreciation speech also informs the people being acknowledged that their effort is being well appreciated by the speaker and the party he/she is representing.
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Greater Good Science Center • Magazine • In Action • In Education
Holiday shopping can be terrifying, yes. But research suggests it’s worth it: New studies attest to the benefits of giving—not just for the recipients but for the givers’ health and happiness, and for the strength of entire communities.
Of course, you don’t have to shop to reap the benefits of giving. Research suggests the same benefits come from donating to charities or volunteering your time, like at a soup kitchen or a homeless shelter. Here are some of the ways that giving is good for you and your community.
1. Giving makes us feel happy. A 2008 study by Harvard Business School professor Michael Norton and colleagues found that giving money to someone else lifted participants’ happiness more that spending it on themselves (despite participants’ prediction that spending on themselves would make them happier). Happiness expert Sonja Lyubomirsky, a professor of psychology at the University of California, Riverside, saw similar results when she asked people to perform five acts of kindness each week for six weeks.
These good feelings are reflected in our biology. In a 2006 study, Jorge Moll and colleagues at the National Institutes of Health found that when people give to charities, it activates regions of the brain associated with pleasure, social connection, and trust, creating a “warm glow” effect. Scientists also believe that altruistic behavior releases endorphins in the brain, producing the positive feeling known as the “helper’s high.”
2. Giving is good for our health. A wide range of research has linked different forms of generosity to better health, even among the sick and elderly. In his book Why Good Things Happen to Good People , Stephen Post, a professor of preventative medicine at Stony Brook University, reports that giving to others has been shown to increase health benefits in people with chronic illness, including HIV and multiple sclerosis.
A 1999 study led by Doug Oman of the University of California, Berkeley, found that elderly people who volunteered for two or more organizations were 44 percent less likely to die over a five-year period than were non-volunteers, even after controlling for their age, exercise habits, general health, and negative health habits like smoking. Stephanie Brown of the University of Michigan saw similar results in a 2003 study on elderly couples. She and her colleagues found that those individuals who provided practical help to friends, relatives, or neighbors, or gave emotional support to their spouses, had a lower risk of dying over a five-year period than those who didn’t. Interestingly, receiving help wasn’t linked to a reduced death risk.
Researchers suggest that one reason giving may improve physical health and longevity is that it helps decrease stress, which is associated with a variety of health problems. In a 2006 study by Rachel Piferi of Johns Hopkins University and Kathleen Lawler of the University of Tennessee, people who provided social support to others had lower blood pressure than participants who didn’t, suggesting a direct physiological benefit to those who give of themselves.
3. Giving promotes cooperation and social connection. When you give, you’re more likely to get back: Several studies, including work by sociologists Brent Simpson and Robb Willer, have suggested that when you give to others, your generosity is likely to be rewarded by others down the line—sometimes by the person you gave to, sometimes by someone else.
These exchanges promote a sense of trust and cooperation that strengthens our ties to others—and research has shown that having positive social interactions is central to good mental and physical health. As researcher John Cacioppo writes in his book Loneliness: Human Nature and the Need for Social Connection , “The more extensive the reciprocal altruism born of social connection . . . the greater the advance toward health, wealth, and happiness.”
What’s more, when we give to others, we don’t only make them feel closer to us; we also feel closer to them. “Being kind and generous leads you to perceive others more positively and more charitably,” writes Lyubomirsky in her book The How of Happiness , and this “fosters a heightened sense of interdependence and cooperation in your social community.”
4. Giving evokes gratitude. Whether you’re on the giving or receiving end of a gift, that gift can elicit feelings of gratitude—it can be a way of expressing gratitude or instilling gratitude in the recipient. And research has found that gratitude is integral to happiness, health, and social bonds.
Robert Emmons and Michael McCullough, co-directors of the Research Project on Gratitude and Thankfulness, found that teaching college students to “count their blessings” and cultivate gratitude caused them to exercise more, be more optimistic, and feel better about their lives overall. A recent study led by Nathaniel Lambert at Florida State University found that expressing gratitude to a close friend or romantic partner strengthens our sense of connection to that person.
Barbara Fredrickson, a pioneering happiness researcher, suggests that cultivating gratitude in everyday life is one of the keys to increasing personal happiness. “When you express your gratitude in words or actions, you not only boost your own positivity but [other people’s] as well,” she writes in her book Positivity . “And in the process you reinforce their kindness and strengthen your bond to one another.”
5. Giving is contagious. When we give, we don’t only help the immediate recipient of our gift. We also spur a ripple effect of generosity through our community.
A study by James Fowler of the University of California, San Diego, and Nicholas Christakis of Harvard, published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Science , shows that when one person behaves generously, it inspires observers to behave generously later, toward different people. In fact, the researchers found that altruism could spread by three degrees—from person to person to person to person. “As a result,” they write, “each person in a network can influence dozens or even hundreds of people, some of whom [they do] not know and [have] not met.” ] Giving has also been linked to the release of oxytocin, a hormone (also released during sex and breast feeding) that induces feelings of warmth, euphoria, and connection to others. In laboratory studies, Paul Zak, the director of the Center for Neuroeconomics Studies at Claremont Graduate University, has found that a dose of oxytocin will cause people to give more generously and to feel more empathy towards others, with “symptoms” lasting up to two hours. And those people on an “oxytocin high” can potentially jumpstart a “virtuous circle, where one person’s generous behavior triggers another’s,” says Zak.
So whether you buy gifts, volunteer your time, or donate money to charity this holiday season, your giving is much more than just a year-end chore. It may help you build stronger social connections and even jumpstart a cascade of generosity through your community. And don’t be surprised if you find yourself benefiting from a big dose of happiness in the process.
Jill Suttie, Psy.D. , is Greater Good ’s former book review editor and now serves as a staff writer and contributing editor for the magazine. She received her doctorate of psychology from the University of San Francisco in 1998 and was a psychologist in private practice before coming to Greater Good .
Jason Marsh is the executive director of the Greater Good Science Center and the editor in chief of Greater Good .
This is a thoughtful entry. I’m used to hearing that giving makes you happy and that it is healthy, but there are many other benefits.
In fact, giving is so good for us that I can think of several other benefits right off the bat: Giving can actually alleviate minor mental illness. Certain forms of it, like formal volunteering, can help you create a winning resume or application for something. Giving can result in personal growth. Giving can help you be a good role model to the young people in your life. And most importantly, giving makes the world a better place for us all to live in. If everyone did their part, maybe we could all reduce the amount of crime, violence, prejudice, and suffering.
Amanda | 5:38 am, January 8, 2011 | Link
“Giving has also been linked to the release of oxytocin, a hormone (also released during sex and breast feeding) that induces feelings of warmth, euphoria, and connection to others. “
I love it! I am forwarding this article to my husby to answer his complains on not enough sex. He is not giving me enough!
Club Wear | 10:41 pm, January 10, 2011 | Link
Wow. I’m really glad I found this article and this site. I’ve been looking for some solid research on why we should give and encourage the act of giving and this site is excellent.
“A 1999 study led by Doug Oman of the University of California, Berkeley, found that elderly people who volunteered for two or more organizations were 44 percent less likely to die over a five-year period than were non-volunteers, even after controlling for their age, exercise habits, general health, and negative health habits like smoking.”
I would love to get this into the minds of general society. How often do we hear about driven people who work all their lives, but quickly die once they retire?
Perhaps engaging voluntary work would not only benefit others, but also prolong the life of the volunteer.
Darren | 12:09 am, August 7, 2011 | Link
I’m a millionaire and I often help my employees during financial hardship. I prefer to spend on others rather than myself.
Mike | 1:28 pm, January 16, 2013 | Link
Four ways to turn a speech into a gift.
Chiara Alzati: CEO and founder, Chiara Alzati Srl ; corporate effective communication and public speaking trainer, speaker, and author.
Addressing an audience comes with a profound responsibility, extending beyond mere knowledge transfer. It involves catalyzing a transformation in individuals, offering them a precious gift beyond words. For those outside the realm of professional communication, achieving this depth involves several key strategies.
First and foremost, simplicity in a speech is crucial. Ensuring that every word is accessible to all is a fundamental concept. Never presume that the audience shares familiarity with certain concepts. Similes become powerful tools, especially when tackling complex topics. For example, explaining cognitive neuroscience to a sophisticated audience might involve portraying it as deciphering the brain's neural code—a journey akin to exploring an intricate library where each neuron is a book, and synapses are pages rich with knowledge.
Sharing personal experiences is the second pillar. Narrating your own story not only establishes a genuine connection with the audience but also serves as a powerful tool for inspiration. Your personal narrative is what sets you apart, making you unique and uncopyable. This authenticity reflects the richness of your journey and the valuable lessons learned throughout your life. Stories are powerful in creating connections, allowing the audience to empathize.
Maintaining a high energy level in the room is the third element. It is crucial to keep the audience engaged and receptive to your message. The room should be conceived as a dynamic space where the energy you exude sets the tone for the entire interaction. Music can serve as a powerful mood enhancer, establishing an atmosphere that complements and reinforces the emotions you wish to convey. Whether it's an upbeat tune to invigorate or a melodic backdrop to evoke reflection, the right musical choice can significantly impact the audience's receptiveness.
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The audience senses your energy level. If it is low, attention in the room tends to diminish.
Energetic body language is a visual manifestation of your enthusiasm and passion. Movements that mirror the rhythm of your message, purposeful gestures that emphasize key points and a confident posture contribute to a captivating and dynamic stage presence. Your body becomes a conduit for the energy you aim to convey, creating a more immersive experience for your audience.
Vocal variety adds an auditory dimension to your presentation. Modulating your tone, pitch and pace prevents monotony, sustaining the audience's interest. A well-timed pause, an emphatic rise in volume or a deliberate change in pitch can emphasize critical points and infuse vitality into your message.
If you are compelled to speak behind a podium, leverage the power of gestures and vocal variety even more to compensate for the inability to move around the stage. Avoid leaning on the podium, staying rigid and speaking in a flat and monotonous tone.
The fourth element involves creating genuine connections with individuals through authenticity. The pursuit of perfection can be a stumbling block. Approaching the audience with a light-hearted spirit of sharing enhances effectiveness. In contrast, when emphasis is placed on performance and meticulous control, a disconnection from the audience often ensues. Falling into the perfection trap as a speaker leads to focusing on oneself rather than the people in your audience. Remember, the audience is not interested in a perfect speaker; they want to grasp the value you can bring with your speech.
To seamlessly integrate these four elements, speakers should ask themselves: "What could I do in my next presentation to ensure that my audience has an experience akin to a 4D cinema?" The goal is to transport your audience into a captivating and immersive journey, ensuring they not only hear but also feel the essence of your message.
Expanding further on this concept, speakers can leverage cinematic dimensions: emotional, interactive, temporal and scenic.
• The emotional dimension involves establishing a deep connection with the audience, using vivid images and emotions to convey messages. For example, instead of declaring a decision was difficult, one can liken it to standing at a crossroads with multiple paths, each wrapped in uncertainty.
• The interactive dimension goes beyond the conventional one-way communication model, incorporating real-time polls, Q&A sessions and participatory activities. Actively engaging the audience transforms the presentation into a dynamic dialogue, ensuring active involvement.
• The temporal dimension leverages an awareness of time throughout the presentation, encompassing past, present and future. Physically embodying this temporal journey by strategically positioning oneself on the stage enhances visual engagement. When at the center of the stage, delve into the present; as you move toward one side, explore the past, and on the other, project into the future.
• The scenic dimension involves orchestrating the stage setting, ensuring seamless management of scenic elements and strategically incorporating props—tangible objects that serve as visual aids. A well-managed scenography captures the audience's attention and establishes a context that reinforces the core message. The judicious use of props adds a dynamic layer to the presentation, clarifying complex ideas.
If sharing a personal story, consider bringing on stage a personal item with special meaning related to the narrative, creating a more emotional connection with the audience.
My wish for you is always to ask yourself: "How can I truly make my next speech special, considering it as a genuine gift for my audience?" When you ask this question and give yourself time for answers, you are heading in the right direction. You are hitting play on your creativity and curiosity, both essential elements to turn your next speech into a true masterpiece, making you understood, admired and remembered. A speech should never be just a speech; it should always be considered as a gift. And as a speaker, you are always Santa Claus—remember that!
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Celebration of life speech example 2, celebration of life speech example 3, celebration of life speech example 4, celebration of life speech example 5, understanding the concept of a celebration of life event, shared memories, personal touches, a celebration of life speech, components of a celebration of life speech, fond memories and anecdotes, passions, hobbies, and life achievements, shared experiences and impact, acknowledgment of grief, step-by-step guide to writing a celebration of life speech, gathering thoughts and memories, structuring the speech, balancing emotion with celebration, reviewing and practicing the speech, sample celebration of life speeches, for a friend, for a parent, for a spouse, tips for delivering a celebration of life speech, emotional preparation, maintaining a positive, yet respectful tone, using notes or a written speech for reference, encouragement for seeking support if needed, eulogy assistant: nurturing memories into tributes, crafting eulogies with reverence for spiritual guides, collaborative crafting of a tribute that resonates, voices from the heart: client testimonials for eulogy assistant, celebration of life speech frequently asked questions.
Life, in all its facets, is a beautiful journey. One filled with moments of joy, sadness, triumph, and lessons that shape us into the people we become. As we gather to remember those who have completed this journey, it's often difficult to find the right words to pay tribute to their memory. This is where a Celebration of Life speech comes into play. It serves as a heartwarming tribute, focusing on the joy, love, and laughter that our loved ones brought into our lives, rather than dwelling on the sorrow of their passing.
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Good [morning/afternoon/evening] everyone,
Today, we gather not to mourn a loss but to celebrate a life extraordinarily lived, a life that was a beacon of joy, love, and inspiration. As we reminisce about the journey of [Name], it becomes evident that [his/her] existence was nothing short of a magnificent symphony, where each moment was a beautiful note contributing to a melodious and harmonious whole.
From the early days of [his/her] youth, [Name] exuded an aura of positivity and zest for life. [He/She] embraced the world with open arms, eager to explore its wonders and immerse [himself/herself] in the beauty that life had to offer. [He/She] was a person who believed in living life to the fullest, embracing each moment with a passion that was truly infectious.
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[Name] had an uncanny ability to connect with people, to reach into their souls and touch their hearts. [His/Her] warm smile, kind eyes, and gentle spirit were a refuge for many, a place where one could find comfort, love, and understanding. [He/She] had the gift of empathy, a rare quality that allowed [him/her] to understand and feel the emotions of others deeply.
Throughout [his/her] life, [Name] pursued [his/her] passions with fervor and determination. [His/Her] love for [mention a hobby or profession] was evident in the way [he/she] devoted [himself/herself] to it, constantly seeking to hone [his/her] skills and achieve excellence. [His/Her] dedication was an inspiration, a testament to what can be achieved when one pursues their dreams with heart and soul.
But what set [Name] apart was [his/her] boundless love for [his/her] family and friends. [He/She] was the glue that held everyone together, the rock upon which everyone could lean. [His/Her] love was a nurturing force, a protective shield that enveloped everyone in its warm embrace. [Name] was not just a family member or a friend; [he/she] was a guardian angel, a beacon of light in the lives of those [he/she] loved.
[Name] also had a deep connection with nature. [He/She] found solace in the beauty of the natural world, often retreating to [mention a favorite place or activity] to recharge [his/her] soul. [His/Her] love for nature was a reflection of [his/her] pure and untamed spirit, a spirit that soared freely like a bird in the sky.
As we celebrate [Name]'s life today, let us remember [his/her] lessons, the wisdom [he/she] imparted through [his/her] actions and words. Let us remember [his/her] courage, [his/her] resilience, and [his/her] unwavering faith in the goodness of humanity. Let us remember [his/her] laughter, [his/her] joy, and the countless moments of happiness [he/she] brought into our lives.
Let us also remember [Name]'s generosity, [his/her] willingness to give without expecting anything in return. [His/Her] kindness was a beacon, a light that guided us towards love and compassion. [Name] taught us the value of unity, of coming together as a community to support and uplift each other.
But most of all, let us remember [Name]'s love, a love that transcended boundaries and united us all in a bond that is unbreakable. A love that continues to resonate in our hearts, a living testament to [his/her] beautiful spirit.
As we bid farewell to [Name], let us carry [his/her] legacy forward. Let us strive to live our lives with the same passion, love, and zest for life that [he/she] exemplified. Let us honor [his/her] memory by being the best versions of ourselves, by spreading love and joy wherever we go.
Dear [Name], your journey on this earth may have come to an end, but your spirit lives on, vibrant and alive in the hearts of those who loved you. Your legacy is a beautiful tapestry of love, joy, and beautiful moments, a tapestry that we will cherish forever.
As we say goodbye, we do so with love in our hearts and smiles on our faces, for we know that you are now at peace, soaring high in the heavens, watching over us with love and grace. Rest well, dear [Name], until we meet again.
Hello everyone,
Today, as we assemble under this roof, we are united by memories, laughter, tears, and the love we shared with [Name]. Though the heavens have gained a star, we gather to revel in the light [he/she] shone upon each one of us during [his/her] time here. [Name] wasn't just a [relation or friend], [he/she] was a melody that played the sweetest notes in the symphony of our lives.
From the very beginning, [Name] exhibited a radiant energy that was impossible to ignore. [His/Her] spirit was a vibrant hue in a sometimes monochrome world, bringing color and vivacity wherever [he/she] went. [He/She] had the remarkable ability to find joy in the small things, teaching those around [him/her] to appreciate life in its fullest, most beautiful form.
A true connoisseur of life, [Name] held an unparalleled passion for [mention a hobby or interest]. It was a joy to witness [him/her] immersed in [his/her] craft, a dance of grace and finesse that left spectators in awe. [His/Her] dedication was a lesson in perseverance, a beacon encouraging us all to strive for excellence in our own pursuits.
But beyond [his/her] personal passions, [Name] had a heart that beat in harmony with the hearts of others. [He/She] fostered relationships with a nurturing and attentive spirit, forging bonds that were both deep and enduring. [His/Her] love was the kind that healed, that supported, that uplifted and that celebrated the joyous milestones of life with genuine happiness.
In [Name], we found a confidant, a pillar of strength, and a source of endless love and warmth. [His/Her] ability to listen, to really hear and understand the stories, fears, and dreams of others, was a gift that made [him/her] a cherished friend and loved family member. [He/She] navigated life with an open heart, offering love unconditionally and expecting nothing in return.
[Name] found peace and tranquility in the arms of nature, often seeking refuge in [mention a favorite place or activity]. [His/Her] connection with the earth was a beautiful dance of give and take, a testament to [his/her] gentle soul and respect for all living things. In nature, [he/she] found a mirror reflecting [his/her] own essence: wild, beautiful, and free.
As we stand here today, celebrating the beautiful journey [Name] embarked upon, let us remember the invaluable lessons [he/she] imparted upon us. [Name] was a beacon of wisdom, sharing insights that encouraged us to live with authenticity and courage. [His/Her] laughter, a melody that will echo in our hearts forever, taught us the importance of finding joy in the present moment.
Moreover, [Name] exemplified the true essence of generosity. [He/She] gave freely, not just material possessions, but love, time, and attention, enriching the lives of those fortunate enough to know [him/her]. In [his/her] presence, we learned the true meaning of community and unity, of coming together to create a tapestry of love and support.
Today, as we honor [his/her] memory, let us pledge to live our lives with the same fervor and love that [he/she] did. Let us keep [his/her] spirit alive by embodying the virtues [he/she] held dear: kindness, compassion, and a zest for life.
Dearest [Name], your physical presence will be missed, but your spirit remains immortal in our hearts. Your journey was a melody that resonated deeply within us, a song that will continue to play in our hearts, bringing comfort and solace.
As we bid you farewell, we do so with love and the knowledge that you are dancing in the heavens, spreading joy and love in the celestial realms. Your legacy is one of love, a love that transcends time and space, uniting us all in a bond that cannot be broken.
Farewell, dear [Name]. You were a melody that brought music to our lives, a tune that will play eternally in the garden of our hearts. Your song is not over, for you have become a part of us, a melody that will continue to play, bringing comfort, love, and beautiful memories.
Unlike traditional funeral speeches, which tend to center around grief and loss, a Celebration of Life speech leans more towards the life lived. It spotlights the personality, achievements, and lasting impact of the deceased, providing comfort and closure to those left behind. The emphasis here is on celebrating the unique journey of the deceased, allowing their memory to live on in the hearts of those who knew them.
In this article, we aim to guide you through the process of writing and delivering a Celebration of Life speech. From understanding its components to viewing examples and helpful tips, we hope to make this daunting task a little less overwhelming. More importantly, we wish to help you create a speech that truly honors and celebrates the life of your loved one, highlighting the beauty of their existence and the indelible marks they left in their wake. Through this celebration, we hope to encourage healing, remembrance, and a shared sense of peace.
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Today, we gather not to mourn, but to celebrate the remarkable life of [Name]. It is a day to reflect on the joy, love, and unforgettable moments that [Name] brought into our lives. While it is natural to feel sorrow at the loss of someone so dear, let us also embrace the happiness that [Name] gave us, and remember the wonderful person they were.
I first met [Name] in [context or time], and from that moment, I knew they were someone special. Their infectious laughter, radiant smile, and boundless energy were impossible to ignore. [Name] had a way of brightening any room they entered, making everyone feel welcome and valued. Their positivity was contagious, and their zest for life was truly inspiring.
One of the things I will always remember about [Name] is their incredible generosity. They had a heart of gold and were always ready to help others, whether it was through acts of kindness, words of encouragement, or simply being there when needed. [Name]'s selflessness was evident in everything they did, and their compassion touched the lives of so many.
I recall a particular instance that perfectly captures [Name]'s spirit. It was during [specific event or memory]. [Name] went out of their way to [describe the act of kindness or memorable event], and it left a lasting impression on everyone involved. This act of generosity was just one of many examples of how [Name] lived their life—always thinking of others and spreading joy wherever they went.
[Name] was not only generous but also incredibly adventurous. They had a passion for exploring new places, trying new things, and living life to the fullest. Whether it was traveling to distant lands, hiking in the mountains, or simply trying a new hobby, [Name] approached every adventure with enthusiasm and a sense of wonder. Their adventurous spirit was a testament to their love of life and their desire to experience all that the world had to offer.
But beyond their generosity and adventurous spirit, [Name] was a true friend to many. They had a way of making everyone feel special and appreciated. [Name] was always there to celebrate our successes, to support us in our struggles, and to offer a listening ear when we needed it most. Their friendship was a gift that we will all cherish forever.
As we celebrate [Name]'s life today, let us remember the many ways they touched our hearts. Their legacy is one of love, kindness, and an unyielding zest for life. [Name] taught us the importance of living each day to the fullest, of finding joy in the little things, and of always being there for one another.
To [Name]'s family, I offer my deepest condolences. Thank you for sharing [Name] with us and for allowing us to be a part of their incredible journey. Your love and support have been a cornerstone of [Name]'s life, and we are forever grateful for the beautiful moments we have shared together.
As we move forward, let us honor [Name]'s memory by continuing to live our lives with the same joy and enthusiasm that they did. Let us strive to be generous, adventurous, and kind, always ready to lend a helping hand and to spread happiness wherever we go. May we find comfort in the knowledge that [Name]'s spirit will live on through the memories we cherish and the love we hold in our hearts.
Rest in peace, dear [Name]. Your legacy will forever be a part of us, and your spirit will continue to inspire and guide us. Thank you for the countless memories, the endless laughter, and the unwavering friendship. You are loved and cherished beyond measure.
Today, we come together to celebrate the life of someone who brought so much love and happiness into our world—our beloved [Name]. While it is natural to feel sadness at their passing, today is about honoring the beautiful life they lived and the many ways they touched our hearts. [Name] was a beacon of love, and their legacy is one that will continue to inspire us all.
I had the privilege of knowing [Name] for [number] years, and in that time, I witnessed firsthand the incredible person they were. [Name] had a unique ability to make everyone feel special and loved. Their warmth, kindness, and genuine care for others were evident in everything they did. Whether it was through a simple act of kindness or a grand gesture, [Name] always found a way to make a difference in the lives of those around them.
One of my fondest memories of [Name] is [specific memory]. It was a time when we [describe the memory in detail], and it perfectly encapsulates who [Name] was. Their [specific qualities, such as kindness, humor, or resilience] made that moment unforgettable, and it is a memory I will cherish forever. [Name] had a way of turning ordinary moments into extraordinary ones, and their presence brought joy to everyone they met.
[Name] was not only a loving friend but also a dedicated [role, e.g., parent, spouse, sibling]. They approached their relationships with the same love and dedication that they brought to every aspect of their life. [Name] was always there to offer support, to celebrate our successes, and to provide a shoulder to lean on during difficult times. Their love was a constant source of strength and comfort, and their presence will be deeply missed.
One of the things I admired most about [Name] was their unwavering positivity. Even in the face of challenges, they always found a way to see the bright side and to lift the spirits of those around them. [Name]'s optimism was infectious, and their ability to find joy in the little things was truly inspiring. They taught us the importance of gratitude and the power of a positive attitude.
[Name] was also a person of great integrity and principle. They lived their life with honesty, humility, and a deep sense of purpose. [Name] was committed to making the world a better place, and their actions reflected their strong values and beliefs. Whether it was through their work, their volunteer efforts, or simply the way they treated others, [Name] made a lasting impact on everyone they met.
As we gather here today, let us take a moment to reflect on the many ways [Name] enriched our lives. Their legacy is one of love, kindness, and unwavering positivity. [Name] taught us the importance of living with purpose, of finding joy in every day, and of always being there for those we care about.
To [Name]'s family, we offer our deepest condolences. Thank you for sharing [Name] with us and for allowing us to be a part of their incredible journey. Your love and support have been a cornerstone of [Name]'s life, and we are forever grateful for the beautiful moments we have shared together.
As we move forward, let us honor [Name]'s memory by continuing to live our lives with the same love and positivity that they did. Let us strive to be kind, compassionate, and dedicated to making a difference in the lives of others. May we find comfort in the knowledge that [Name]'s spirit will live on through the memories we cherish and the love we hold in our hearts.
Rest in peace, dear [Name]. Your legacy will forever be etched in our hearts, and your spirit will continue to inspire and guide us. Thank you for the countless memories, the endless love, and the unwavering friendship. You are loved and cherished beyond measure.
We are here today to celebrate the life of a truly extraordinary person, [Name]. As we gather to honor their memory, let us focus not on our sadness, but on the incredible impact [Name] had on all of us. Their life was one of love, laughter, and meaningful connections, and it is a privilege to share our memories and celebrate the beautiful legacy they have left behind.
I first met [Name] in [context or time], and from that day forward, they became an integral part of my life. [Name] had a rare gift for making everyone feel valued and appreciated. Their genuine care for others was evident in every interaction, and their ability to connect with people from all walks of life was truly remarkable. [Name]'s kindness and empathy created a ripple effect that touched countless lives.
One of my favorite memories of [Name] is [specific memory]. It was a moment that perfectly captured their essence—[describe the memory in detail]. Their [specific qualities, such as humor, resilience, or compassion] made that moment unforgettable, and it is a memory I will hold dear forever. [Name] had a way of making even the simplest moments special, and their presence brought joy to everyone around them.
[Name] was not only a dear friend but also a dedicated [role, e.g., colleague, mentor, family member]. They approached every aspect of their life with passion and purpose. Whether it was through their work, their volunteer efforts, or their relationships, [Name] gave their all and made a positive impact on everyone they encountered. Their dedication to making the world a better place was truly inspiring.
One of the things that stood out most about [Name] was their unwavering strength and resilience. No matter what challenges they faced, they always approached them with courage and determination. [Name]'s ability to overcome obstacles and to find hope in difficult times was a testament to their incredible spirit. They taught us the importance of perseverance and the power of a positive attitude.
[Name] was also a person of great integrity and principle. They lived their life with honesty, humility, and a deep sense of responsibility. [Name] was committed to doing what was right, even when it was difficult, and their actions reflected their strong values and beliefs. Their integrity and character earned them the respect and admiration of everyone who knew them.
As we celebrate [Name]'s life today, let us reflect on the many ways they enriched our lives. Their legacy is one of love, kindness, and unwavering strength. [Name] taught us the importance of living with purpose, of finding joy in every day, and of always being there for those we care about. Their impact on our lives is immeasurable, and their memory will forever be a part of us.
As we move forward, let us honor [Name]'s memory by continuing to live our lives with the same love and integrity that they did. Let us strive to be kind, compassionate, and dedicated to making a difference in the lives of others. May we find comfort in the knowledge that [Name]'s spirit will live on through the memories we cherish and the love we hold in our hearts.
Rest in peace, dear [Name]. Your legacy will forever be etched in our hearts, and your spirit will continue to inspire and guide us. Thank you for the countless memories, the endless impact, and the unwavering friendship. You are loved and cherished beyond measure.
A Celebration of Life event is exactly what its name suggests: a gathering designed to celebrate and honor the life of the deceased. It's a commemorative event that focuses on the joy, love, and unique qualities of the person who has passed away, rather than primarily focusing on their death.
Unlike traditional funeral or memorial services, a Celebration of Life event is less bound by rituals or customs. Instead, it offers flexibility in format, venue, and proceedings, often reflecting the personality, values, or wishes of the deceased. This event can be organized alongside a traditional funeral service or held separately, depending on the preferences of the family.
At the heart of a Celebration of Life event are the key elements that pay tribute to the person's life journey. These elements may include:
Loved ones gather to share heartwarming stories, anecdotes, or experiences that encapsulate the deceased's personality, life, and the impact they had on others.
The event often includes personal elements connected to the deceased, such as their favorite music, photos, or even themed decorations that reflect their passions or hobbies.
Perhaps the most poignant part of the event is the Celebration of Life speech. This speech is a heartfelt oration that highlights the positive aspects of the deceased's life, their accomplishments, and the legacy they leave behind.
Understanding these elements and the concept of a Celebration of Life event can provide a strong foundation for creating a speech that not only pays tribute to your loved one's life but also offers comfort, closure, and healing to those in attendance. In the following sections, we will delve deeper into the components of a Celebration of Life speech, offer examples, and provide tips to guide you in this process.
Crafting a Celebration of Life speech demands a delicate balance. While it should openly acknowledge the pain of loss, it's equally important to remember that the primary focus is to celebrate the life lived, highlighting the positives, joys, and the individuality of the deceased.
Start by recollecting fond memories and anecdotes that best exemplify the life and character of your loved one. These could range from significant life events to simple everyday moments that brought out their personality or qualities. Maybe it was their infectious laughter at family dinners, their knack for giving sage advice, or perhaps their culinary experiments that filled the house with delightful aromas.
Every life is a rich tapestry woven with threads of passion, hobbies, and achievements. Be it their career, their love for gardening, their endless hours spent fishing, their community service, or their ability to run a marathon, these aspects of their life formed a part of their identity and gave them joy. Celebrate these passions and achievements in your speech.
Reflect on the shared experiences that highlight your loved one's impact on those around them. This could involve personal experiences or those shared by others. For instance, the time they stayed up all night to help a friend with a project, or when they went out of their way to bring in a stray animal, showing their compassionate nature.
While a Celebration of Life speech leans towards the positive, it's essential to acknowledge the grief that accompanies the loss of a loved one. However, this acknowledgment should still tie back into the celebration of their life. Yes, we are heartbroken, but we are also immensely grateful for the time we had with them and the memories we created.
Creating a Celebration of Life speech is not about glossing over the sadness of loss; it's about embracing the full spectrum of emotions that come with remembering a loved one. The key lies in painting a vivid, holistic picture of their life - one that brings a soft smile of remembrance to the faces of those gathered, even amidst their tears.
The process of writing a Celebration of Life speech can feel daunting, especially during a time of grief. But this journey can also be a cathartic experience, helping you channel your emotions into creating a fitting tribute. Here's a step-by-step guide to assist you through the process:
Begin by reflecting on the life of your loved one. Spend time recalling memories, stories, and shared experiences. You may find it helpful to jot down these memories as they come to you, forming a collection of moments, traits, and achievements that capture the essence of their life. Don't rush this process. Allow yourself the freedom to reminisce and connect with your feelings. These reflections will form the core of your speech.
Once you have your thoughts collected, start outlining your speech. While there's no rigid template to follow, a good Celebration of Life speech generally has three parts:
A Celebration of Life speech is inherently emotional, but it's also a celebration. While you acknowledge the sadness of loss, strive to keep your tone uplifting, focusing on the joy, love, and laughter your loved one brought into the world. This balance can be tricky, but always aim to leave your audience with a sense of warmth and appreciation for the life lived.
Once your speech is written, take the time to review and practice it. Read it out loud, listening to the flow and rhythm of your words. This practice will not only help you deliver the speech more confidently but may also highlight areas for improvement that you might have missed in writing. If possible, consider seeking feedback from a trusted friend or family member.
Remember, a Celebration of Life speech is deeply personal, and there's no 'wrong' way to go about it. Trust your feelings and your understanding of your loved one, and you'll create a speech that genuinely celebrates their life and the impact they had on those around them.
"Good afternoon everyone. I'm John, and for those who don't know me, Michael and I were best friends for over thirty years. We're here today not just to mourn his passing but to celebrate his vibrant, unforgettable life, full of joy, humor, and remarkable friendships.
Michael was a beacon of laughter. I recall a camping trip we took many years ago. We had forgotten to pack our tent, and rather than seeing it as a disaster, Michael just laughed and said, 'Well, it looks like we’re sleeping under the stars tonight.' And we did, sharing stories and laughter until the early morning. That's the spirit of Michael - always finding a reason to laugh and enjoy the moment.
Michael was passionate about music. He wasn't just a fan; he lived and breathed every note and lyric. His taste was infectious, and he introduced us all to bands and artists we'd never heard of before. His passion for music was one of the many things that made him truly unique.
I know we all miss Michael dearly. His laughter, his enthusiasm for music, his unwavering friendship - these are qualities that made him special. But today, let's remember the joy he brought into our lives and celebrate the time we were lucky enough to share with him. Michael's melody will forever play in our hearts."
"Hello everyone, I'm Sarah, Linda's daughter. Today, I want to celebrate my mother's life, the beautiful moments we shared, and the profound impact she had on all of us.
My mother was a woman of incredible strength and boundless love. I remember how she would come home after long hours at the hospital, tired but still finding the energy to make us dinner, help with homework, or just listen to our day. Her dedication to her family was limitless, and it's that love and strength that we honor today.
She was also an avid gardener, her love for plants apparent in the vibrant flower beds that surrounded our home. Each bloom in her garden was a testament to her patience and nurturing nature. Just as she tended to those plants, she nurtured our family with that same love and dedication.
As we gather here today, let's remember her not with sadness but with the love and joy she embodied. Let's celebrate the strength that she passed on to us, the love she nurtured in our hearts, and the beautiful life she lived."
"Good evening, my name is Martha, and Robert was my partner in all things life for 40 years. Today, we're here to remember him, not with grief, but with gratitude for the life he lived and the love he shared.
Robert was an exceptional man, filled with kindness, integrity, and a sense of adventure. He loved fishing, a passion born from countless summer afternoons spent at his grandfather's lakeside cabin. Even in the heart of winter, he would throw on his thickest coat, grab his fishing gear, and head to the frozen lake, undeterred by the cold.
He had an infectious laugh and a wit that could light up any room. He was my steadfast partner, my confidant, and my best friend. His love was a beacon, guiding me through life's storms, and his memory will continue to guide me in the years to come.
Today, let's honor Robert's memory by celebrating his life - a life lived with joy, love, and an unfailing spirit of adventure. As we say goodbye, let's remember the love he shared, the lives he touched, and the man he was. In our hearts, he will forever be fishing on a golden lake, his laughter echoing in the wind."
Each of these speeches embraces the spirit of celebrating the deceased's life, focusing on their qualities, passions, and the joy they brought to others. This approach helps those in mourning remember their loved ones in a positive light, celebrating the life they lived rather than focusing solely on the grief of their passing.
Delivering a Celebration of Life speech is not just about honoring the deceased; it's also about offering comfort to others and acknowledging the joy and happiness the deceased brought into their lives. It can be an emotional experience, filled with a mix of grief, love, and fond memories. Here are some tips to assist you in preparing and delivering a heartfelt and uplifting speech:
First and foremost, it's essential to recognize that delivering a Celebration of Life speech can be emotionally challenging. Take time to acknowledge your feelings and give yourself permission to feel the full range of emotions. Don’t rush your preparation. Instead, allow yourself the time and space to reflect and reminisce about the person you are honoring.
As you prepare your speech, remember the intent is to celebrate the life of your loved one. Emphasize the positive impact they had on your life and others, recount joyful memories, and express the love and respect you have for them. While it's natural to feel grief, try to focus on the happiness and joy that the deceased brought into the world.
Achieving the right tone for a Celebration of Life speech can be a delicate balancing act. The aim is to create a speech that is upbeat and positive, focusing on the joyous aspects of the deceased's life. However, it's equally important to maintain respect and acknowledge the sorrow that comes with loss.
One way to ensure a positive, yet respectful tone, is by sharing uplifting anecdotes or memories that encapsulate the person's life, their passions, and their personality. Celebrate their achievements, recount humorous episodes, or tell stories about the times they made a difference in someone’s life. While it's okay to touch upon the sadness of their passing, try to bring the focus back to their life and the positive influence they had.
Having a printed copy of your speech can be incredibly helpful, especially when emotions are running high. It can provide a structure to your speech, help you maintain your train of thought, and ensure you cover all the points you wanted to mention. Plus, if you become too overwhelmed, it can be a helpful tool to lean on.
When writing your speech, try to keep your language simple and authentic. Write as you speak, and don't worry too much about adhering to formal speech-writing conventions. The most important thing is that your speech feels genuine and heartfelt.
Remember, it's okay to seek support when preparing or delivering a Celebration of Life speech. Talk to family members or close friends, and share your thoughts and feelings. They can provide comfort, help you collect your thoughts, or assist in recalling memories and anecdotes about the deceased. When delivering your speech, knowing you have the emotional support of others can provide comfort and strength.
Giving a Celebration of Life speech is a beautiful way to honor a loved one and a task filled with love and respect. Despite the emotions it may stir up, many find the process cathartic and healing. By focusing on the joy and love that the deceased brought into the world, you can provide comfort and solace to those in mourning while celebrating a life well-lived.
In conclusion, crafting and delivering a Celebration of Life speech is a poignant task that gives us the opportunity to express our feelings, share our cherished memories, and most importantly, to celebrate the life of someone who was dear to us. Although the process can be emotionally demanding, it is also an act of love that can bring a sense of healing and closure.
A Celebration of Life speech isn't just about marking the end of a person's journey; it's about paying tribute to their unique spirit, their passions, their achievements, and their impact on the lives of others. As we've seen in the sample speeches provided, each person's life story is uniquely their own, full of vivid colors, distinct flavors, and a myriad of experiences that helped shape them and those around them.
In the midst of our grief, a Celebration of Life event provides a space where tears and laughter coexist, where stories are shared, and where the life of our loved one is honored in the most beautiful way possible. In that space, we are reminded of the fragility and the preciousness of life, prompting us to live our own lives with more purpose, gratitude, and love.
As you prepare your speech, remember that it's okay to lean on others for support, to express your emotions openly, and to seek solace in the shared memories of your loved one. At the end of the day, your words, spoken from the heart, will serve as a touching homage to the life that was and the memories that will forever remain.
May this guide serve as a beacon during this challenging time, illuminating your path as you navigate through your emotions, gather your thoughts, and ultimately, craft a speech that truly celebrates the life of your beloved. Remember, your tribute will form part of the lasting legacy of your loved one’s life, a testament to their journey, and a celebration of the love they shared.
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A Celebration of Life speech is a heartfelt tribute that honors the life and legacy of a deceased individual. It highlights the joyous moments, achievements, and the positive impact the person had on others. These speeches are often delivered at memorial services or commemorative events, providing an opportunity to celebrate the person’s life rather than focusing solely on their passing.
While both eulogies and Celebration of Life speeches serve to remember the deceased, a Celebration of Life speech often has a more uplifting tone, focusing on the joyous moments, accomplishments, and positive characteristics of the individual. It is more about celebrating the person's life journey and the wonderful memories they created, rather than mourning their loss.
The tone of a Celebration of Life speech should be a harmonious blend of empathy, warmth, and positivity. While it acknowledges the loss, it predominantly emphasizes the joy, love, and beautiful moments the person brought into the lives of others, fostering a comforting and hopeful atmosphere.
When writing a Celebration of Life speech, it is recommended to:
Typically, a Celebration of Life speech lasts between 5 and 10 minutes. However, it can be adjusted based on the specific circumstances of the event. It is essential to convey heartfelt messages without it being too lengthy, retaining the audience's engagement throughout the speech.
Yes, incorporating humor into a Celebration of Life speech can often bring a sense of comfort and lightness to the occasion. Sharing funny anecdotes or humorous traits of the individual can be a beautiful way to honor their memory, showcasing their ability to bring joy and laughter to others.
To make the speech more personal, you can include:
Yes, incorporating multimedia elements such as photos, videos, or music can enhance the speech by providing a visual and auditory representation of the person's life. These elements can help to evoke emotions and offer a deeper connection to the individual being remembered.
Concluding the speech with a heartfelt farewell, a hopeful message, or a moment of reflection can be very moving. It might also be fitting to end with a quote, a poem, or a personal sentiment that encapsulates the person's essence and the positive impact they had on others.
Absolutely, inviting others to share their memories can be a beautiful way to involve the community in the celebration. It allows for a diverse range of stories and perspectives, painting a fuller picture of the person's life and the many lives they touched.
Preparing yourself emotionally is crucial. It might be helpful to rehearse the speech several times to become comfortable with the content. On the day, take deep breaths and give yourself the grace to be emotional if necessary. Remember, it is a celebration of the person's life, and it's okay to show vulnerability.
If you find yourself becoming too emotional, take a moment to compose yourself. It's completely normal to feel overwhelmed during such occasions. You can pause, take a deep breath, or have a backup speaker ready to step in if needed. The audience understands the emotional weight of the moment and will support you through it.
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Speech-language pathologists, speech therapists, and audiologists help people better connect with their friends, family, and peers every single day. Verbal communication is one of the main building blocks of human relationships, and it’s something most of us take for granted. So, if an SLP has touched your life in some way this year, now’s the time to show them how much you appreciate it. Finding a thoughtful, personal gift for a speech therapist can be a time-consuming endeavor—who wants to spend hours scrolling through endless pages of “SLP shirt” results when they could be snacking on cookies and eggnog?
Luckily, we’ve already done the necessary work for you. Below, you’ll find a list of our favorite SLP gifts, organized by category. Consider these gift ideas for speech therapists our gift to you. Cheers!
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Is the SLP on your list an accessory aficionado? If so, then this is definitely the section for you. Any of these shiny doodads would be the perfect complement to any ensemble—formal or casual.
While SLPs specialize in the spoken word, the written messages scrawled on these items of clothing have significant meaning to this special group of people. Plus, some of them are downright hilarious—and who doesn’t love a jolly good laugh this time of year?
Creating a speech therapy program is a lot like creating art: It requires great passion, vision, and patience. These pieces embody the fusion of the visual and auditory senses, making them well-suited additions to any SLP clinic, office, or waiting room.
Many people write off practical gifts as a holiday no-no, but we know we’re not the only ones who would rather receive any of the items below in place of the ubiquitous holiday fruitcake.
Sometimes, the best gifts are the ones written from the heart.
There you go: our top speech-language pathologist gift ideas for 2022. Now that you can check one more person off of your shopping list, you’ll have more time to start addressing all those family holiday cards. And, speaking of checking people off your list, if you have an occupational therapist or physical therapist you still need to shop for, we have gift ideas for them as well.
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11/23/2016 by Jenna 4 Comments
Are you a generous elf looking for the perfect gift for your Speech Language Pathologist or Teacher friend? (Hi, MOM!!!!) Today I’m sharing a dozen gift ideas for speech therapists or SLPs. Although we’re generous souls who work for the benefit of our clients, there are a few things we’d like to find under our tree this year. If you happen to be an elf who loves Amazon, like me, I included Amazon affiliate links for your convenience to some items below.
After this list, make sure you browse the 2019 Holiday Gift Guide !
Here are the gifts your SLP actually wants.
Kate Spade Watch: Got a lady who loves fashion? I wear a watch every day to work and it is usually a Kate Spade. Love this one!
Check out these speech bubble + BLAH notes from Paper Thin Studio. I’ve never met an SLP without a to-do list.
Coffee Maker or Keurig Cups . It’s the little things that make life at a school better. Coffee is one of those little things so if your favorite school employee is a coffee drinker, go grab her some K cups! The Dunkin’ mix is my favorite!
Ulla: A co-worker of mine has this really cool water-bottle gadget . It is a small sensor that attaches to any water bottle. It tracks your drinking and blinks when you should drink water. SLPs know how important hydration is for our voices and this little tool might work for you!
Speaking of Hydration, you favorite SLP likely needs a bottle of wine. You can specialize it by ordering these wine bottle labels to add to any bottle and bring a smile to your SLP friends.
Speak Out Game : For a little adult humor with an SLP twist, Speak Out is funny! You put in a lip spreader like you’ve seen at the dentist and try to say sentences. I guarantee your SLP will be listening for bilabials and labiodentals.
Hair Tie Bracelets : I work with children with behavior and sensory needs so I often have to be ready to pull my hair up and out of reach at a moments notice. I use a hair tie bracelet to avoid that tight feeling on my wrist and always have one when I need it!
Peachie Speechie T-shirts : If your school has jeans and t-shirt Friday, pick from one of dozens of Peachie Speechie t-shirts.
The cord battle is real at my house. These super cute cord organizers from Dean Trout (retired SLP) are super cute but also super functional.
I use a bluetooth speaker for lots of reason in my therapy. I love the Bose version!
No Spill Mighty Mug Biggie : I bought a Mighty Mug this year and this thing is awesome! When you set it down it airlocks to the table. If you lift straight up, it comes right off the table. If you knock it front the side, it won’t tip over. Life saver for a busy SLPs desk!
Fake Yeti: Yeti stainless steel tumblers are all the rage. They carry a hefty price tag but these Ozark ones work just as well at 1/3 of the price! I pack my water in one every day!
A solid work bag is essential for every SLP. I have this Stella and Dot bag and love that I can wear it on my shoulder or cross body.
Blue Tree Publishing still makes these really cute SLP sticky notes. They are stinking adorable.
Christmas Ornaments: This is always a favorite gift of mine!
Zazzle has this cute SLP words version.
This wooden speech bubble one from Etsy could be personalized really easily!
Spectograph Card : How cute are these? Bring out your inner Speech Science nerd!
Or wear your sound wave with a cute bracelet from FioreJewellery !
Organizing Bins : I usually start the year with a resolution to get organized and I love these metals ones that can be wall mounted.
Speaking of office supplies, Pentel Energel are my very favorite pens ever. Dear Santa, fill my stocking with these.
Last year I bought a binding machine and it has been great. I use it to bind my interactive vocabulary books.
And if your favorite SLP doesn’t have her very own laminator, I use a Scotch laminator at home. I’m going on 7 years strong with mine!
Time! The best things you can give an SLP is time. You can purchase a gift card to Teachers Pay Teachers and send them on a shopping spree in my TpT shop!
In case your family happens to follow you on Pinterest, go ahead and pin this nifty image!
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11/23/2016 at 3:20 pm
Wow! These are great ideas!!! You are just do awesome with all your cool tips Thanks
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If “Maggie” in comment #2 is Maggie Mae M……..YES! Your mom would be delighted with any of these gift ideas! I especially like the cord organizers! Sincerely, Mom 🙂
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SLP gift ideas can be tricky. Whether you’re a parent giving a gift to your child’s SLP or you want something special for your SLP bestie (or wife or CF supervisor). I’ve got you covered for all price ranges. Especially if you’re buying for yourself my SLP friend.
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But first, let's find out the general rules that will help make your gift-giving speech genuinely thoughtful. 5 Basic Rules Of Successful Phrases When Giving A Gift 1. Emphasize How Much The Recipient Means To You. First and foremost, always remember that everything you say should be for the recipient and about the recipient.
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Keep your head held high, for better days are ahead. This gift is a reminder that brighter days are on the horizon." 7. Messages of Celebration and Joy. Life is full of moments worth celebrating, and a heartfelt message can make those occasions even more special. Whether you're toasting to a new job, a new home, or simply another year of ...
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Step 4: Be Personal and Specific. In casual and formal speeches alike, you should feel free to be specific. If you're giving a speech in honor of one person, you can list all of the things they do that deserve appreciation. If you're thanking other people for their support, you can list the ways they helped you.
5. "This is incredible! My jaw is on the floor.". Download Article. Show them how surprised you are. If someone went out of their way to give you an unexpected gift, make sure they know they succeeded in their mission to surprise and delight you. Say "thanks" and express your shock at the same time.
Speech tends to be more conservative in formal situations such as a wedding or a workplace or when giving or receiving a gift from someone you don't know well. Phrases for Giving Gifts Informal Situations . Here are some common informal phrases you can use when giving a gift to a close friend, a family member, or a loved one:
Here's a short example thank you speech for you to see how it could be done. There are many ways covering the required content. This is just one. The person giving this speech is thanking an organization for giving him an award. It is 374 words long. When spoken it will take approximately 2 minutes + to deliver. That's about the right length.
He could give that gift because of another one given long ago. God, the Father, gave his Son, and Jesus Christ gave us the Atonement, the greatest of all gifts and all giving. Thank you, President Holland. I am delighted to be here with you. I pray that I may have the blessings of the Spirit so that I can say something useful to you.
Giving gifts is a wonderful opportunity to show your love, gratitude, or appreciation for a person. If done in the right way of course. And for that, you need to know the proper gifting rules (AKA the gifting etiquette). ... So don't give a whole speech to someone who hates being in the middle of attention. Don't say it was a really ...
Initiate your speech with the origin or history behind the gift you are giving. It attracts people as well as makes the gifts memorable. Creative things are always appreciated. So, leave the traditional things, and try to make something creative with your own effort. Lastly, a gift becomes most impressive when it is a surprise.
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The traditional interpretation of this passage, which is similar to passages in any sacred text, is basically this: "Give more to other people. You have so much; give more." Take it to the next level. Take it to the source of the prosperity. You have been given the gift of giving. Help others by giving them the gift of giving.
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Giving a Celebration of Life speech is a beautiful way to honor a loved one and a task filled with love and respect. Despite the emotions it may stir up, many find the process cathartic and healing. By focusing on the joy and love that the deceased brought into the world, you can provide comfort and solace to those in mourning while celebrating ...
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Call the speaker back to the podium if you're giving a gift, and then give the gift while making a brief speech that is suitable. It's OK for the speaker to offer a few words of appreciation. However, never force a speaker to do anything. If you are also the master of ceremonies, you should continue with the program at this point; otherwise, if ...
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Nelson wrote back the same day, calling Mr. Vance "buddy" and thanking him for "being sweet," adding, "If you had written gender queer radical pragmatist, nobody would know what you mean."
At the discussion of the bill at the National Security Committee two months ago, Justice Ministry representative Adv. Gabriella Fisman said, "We recognize the special justification for providing special tools to prevent the surging crime in the Arab community and in general." But she admitted that these were "very extraordinary and unprecedented tools in providing balance and proportionality ...